We buried Jake today. It has been the longest two days of my life. So many people loved him. Here are some pictures and his Eulogy:
BORN 7-9-05 at 7:06 2 pounds, 14 ounces, half a heart
Eulogy to The Face
i carry your heart with me by ee cummings
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
So many people knew of Jake’s amazing journey through life as a heart baby. Born 10 weeks prematurely, with half a heart, the multiple surgeries, the 2 separate resuscitations that brought him back to us twice before. Jake always had legions of people praying for him to continue being a miracle on Earth.
For those who didn’t know him personally, he was a small, chubby cheeked boy with a killer smile that could light up even the darkest room. Forceful and stubborn, with a strong personality and particular way of doing things, he waited patiently for everyone else to fall in line with his plans. He liked to walk his bike and watch Elmo, dance and sing. He spent hours playing his music and drumming.
His greatest happiness in life was spending time with his family. He never let you forget he was around or forget to pay attention. He copied our expressions and movements – anything to make us laugh. He hated to sleep or let us sleep. Some of our fondest, and not so fond, memories are of his little hand tap-tapping away on our face until we finally got up for an exasperated Jake. If four hours of sleep was good enough for him it was good enough for everyone.
We will never forget all the joy and laughter he brought to everyone and how he made each day happy and fun.
Last Friday night, with his eyes so swollen he could barely open them, with infection raging through his little body, with tubes and wires everywhere, he opened his eyes to see us standing there. And even though our jokes were bad, he mustered up his last bit of energy and smiled at us.
Jake, you are the most courageous soul we ever knew. It was a privilege to be your mommy and daddy. If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.